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"Honor
your father and your mother..."
(part 2)
Ephesians 6:1-9; Colossians 3:21 – 4:1;
Hebrews 13:17 |
John
Mabray
March 5, 2000 Evening |
We continue tonight with Part
2 of the sermon on the fifth commandment, "Honor
your father and your mother." This commandment
applies not only to children and their parents, but
also to those who are in positions of authority. The
Children’s Catechism says that the fifth commandment
teaches us "to love and obey our parents and
everyone in authority over us." Tonight I want to
focus on "everyone in authority over us." Now, this
is not only those who are in authority over
children, but those who are in positions of
established authority in the public realm or in the
church.
We live in an
anti-authoritarian society. The cultural revolution
of the 1960's was a rebellion against all authority:
in the home, in the schools, in the legal system,
and in the church. All in authority were to be cast
down and thrown out. And though that radical,
anti-authoritarian spirit may not be as prominent
today, its effects are still with us today. It has
changed our culture.
A few weeks ago, you might
have noticed an article in the newspaper about the
challenges which teachers face these days. It is
often said that, these days, teachers spend most of
their time simply trying to maintain order in the
classroom and disciplining their students. The
number one concern expressed by teachers is that
students show a "lack of respect" for authority.
Now, I’m not down on the
students; that’s not what this is about. The
students today aren’t any different by nature,
aren’t any worse by nature, than the students
of my generation or my parents’ or grandparents’
generation. What’s different, and what’s worse, is
that today in our culture, there is no commonly held
value and esteem for authority. Our society doesn’t
like the idea of "authority" and "authority
figures." We don’t want anybody telling us what we
can and cannot do — nobody has the right to do that
— and so we want a society in which we’re all free
to do whatever is right in our own eyes. But, that’s
true not only in society in general, but also in the
Christian community. Many professing Christians
today would not want to be part of a fellowship in
which there was real moral accountability.
But the fifth commandment,
when broadly applied, brings peace and order and
harmony not only to our families, but also to the
church, and to society at large. Some of you have
heard me comment that, in the Westminster Larger
Catechism, the fifth commandment receives more
treatment, there is more explanation and application
of it, than any other commandment. I’d like to call
your attention to the Larger Catechism in order to
show you the Reformed vision of a peaceable and
happy society. The Larger Catechism [Q#124] asks,
Who are meant by "father" and
"mother" in the Fifth Commandment? A: By "father"
and "mother" in the Fifth Commandment are meant not
only natural parents, but all superiors in age and
gifts; and especially such as by God’s ordinance are
over us in place of authority, whether in the
family, church, or commonwealth.
Now, let me explain that the
Larger Catechism, based on the Bible, teaches that
creation is ordered hierarchically. There is an
order of hierarchy in creation itself, and there is
an order of hierarchy in the family, in the church,
and in society which is to be acknowledged and
respected. Now this, of course, is highly
distasteful to the contemporary American mindset. In
our anti-authoritarian age, our culture detests the
notion of hierarchy. The popular mindset has really
adopted the agenda of the French Revolution, and
more and more demands egalitarianism in our society,
in which, supposedly, everybody is on the same
level. You know, if someone excels at something —
academics, athletics, or business — but someone else
doesn’t excel, well, there must be something wrong
with the system, there must be something unfair
about the set-up, the one who excels must have some
kind of unjust advantage over the person who does
not excel.
Or, another example of
"egalitarianism" — where everybody is on the same
level — is the idea the family is a pure democracy,
and that a child’s opinion or "vote," by "right"
counts as much as a parent’s. Well, you know, as
parents we really ought to listen to our children,
and we need to take their concerns, their needs,
their desires, their interests seriously. And, of
course, if it’s a matter of where you go out to eat
on kids’ night, sure, take a vote and let the
majority rule. No big deal. But the family is not a
pure democracy. The family is much more like a
republic in which the leaders, the authorities, the
parents, are entrusted with the responsibility of
governing the family with the best-interest of the
whole family in mind. You might even say that a
family is really like a benevolent monarchy — in
which the king and queen rule over the family with
love and kindness and wisdom and grace and mercy and
justice. But the family is not a pure democracy.
Likewise the church is not
ordered as a pure democracy in which everyone is on
the same level. Now, we’re all on the same level as
sinners in the sight of God. We’re all on the same
level as sinners for whom Christ died and rose
again. But, in terms of the structure of our
covenant-community life, we’re not all on the same
level. We have officers, particularly elders, who
are elected to govern the church, and who are
charged with the duty to protect the purity and
peace of the church. Hebrews 13:17 speaks to this
when it says, "Obey
your leaders and submit to their authority. They
keep watch over you as men who must give an account.
Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a
burden, for that would be of no advantage to you."
Now, this passage is referring
to leaders, and those in authority, in the church.
It is clear from the context that this is speaking
of church leaders, not authorities of secular civil
government. In fact, most translations say that
these leaders "keep watch over your souls" (and I
don’t know why that dropped out of the NIV), so it
is clear that this has to do with spiritual
leadership, oversight, and authority. Now, what a
tremendous responsibility that is, for pastors and
elders to "keep watch over" the souls of a
congregation, to lead a congregation with spiritual
authority, and to be held accountable by God and
before God for you. Please pray for us. The
Scripture says, "obey your leaders and submit to
their authority." I admit that that’s a rather
bracing verse. The pastors and elders of this
congregation are not accustomed to thinking of
ourselves as leaders who are in a position to give
instructions or commands to be "obeyed" by members
of the congregation. But we are placed by God in a
role of governmental and spiritual leadership. Our
church membership vows include the question, "Do
you submit yourselves to the government and
discipline of the church and promise to further its
purity and peace?" — and that’s usually the
question which prospective new members always look
puzzled or unsure about. We’re just not accustomed
to the idea of standards, and authority, and
discipline in the contemporary American church, and
so that question seems strange and confusing. But
that question affirms the fact that our congregation
does have a government by ruling elders, and that
ruling elders do have the responsibility to exercise
authority in the church, and that ruling elders are
called and commissioned by God to keep watch over
the souls of the church members.
Now as leaders of the
congregation, your pastors and elders are called to
lead following the example of the Good Shepherd,
Jesus Christ, and under His authority. And that
means that we must lead in humility, and in
accordance with God’s Word, and with love and care
for the congregation. We also lead in the knowledge
that we are sinners, and that we make mistakes. And
so, this passage calls the church members and the
church’s spiritual leaders to maintain a peaceful
communion, a fellowship of love, a happy and holy
family life together as the people of God, in which
it is a joy for leaders to lead, and a joy for
church members to follow godly leadership. And I
want to commend this congregation, and I have said
this to people outside our membership: God has
blessed this congregation, and this congregation is
a happy and healthy congregation, free from strife,
grumbling, murmuring, and factions of self-interest.
And for that, we must be deeply grateful to God,
(and I am), and we also must, in the words of
Ephesians 4, "make
every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through
the bond of peace."
Now, you may be wondering:
Is this sermon really ‘Part 2' on the fifth
commandment? Well, yes, it is, because it is
addressing the reality and the role of authority in
the family life of the congregation.
But the application of the
Fifth Commandment goes even further. The Larger
Catechism speaks in terms of "superiors",
"inferiors", and "equals." Now, that doesn’t mean
that some people are "better" than others in terms
of their basic humanity. "All have sinned and fall
short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23). But it
does mean that in the structure of society, some are
in positions of greater authority — by virtue of
their age, or their abilities, or their position in
the family, the church, or the commonwealth (the
authority structure of society). We are either in
the position of an "inferior" or a "superior" or an
"equal" in relation to others in terms of our age or
our position of authority in the particular social
context in which that relationship occurs.
So, if you are an "employer",
you are obligated by God to treat your employee with
genuine concern for his or her well-being. You are
in the position of being a "mother" or "father",
so-to-speak, in terms of your position of authority,
in relation to your employee. You should pray for
your employees, you should seek to notice their good
work and reward it accordingly; and you should
notice their poor work, and reprove it for the sake
of helping them to improve their performance. And,
as the person in authority over them, in so far as
the work place is concerned, you are responsible for
setting before them a godly example. And so it is a
sin to abuse your position of authority as an
employee or as a supervisor of those under you; it
is a sin to use and abuse people in order to seek
your own glory, ease, profit, or pleasure. It is a
sin to use your authority to command an employee, or
a subordinate, to do something that is immoral or
against the law.
And, if you are an "employee",
then you are obligated by God to honor and respect
the employer, or the one who is your immediate
"supervisor," in terms of that person’s
authoritative position in the workplace. You may not
respect that person in terms of his or her personal
values or lifestyle, but you are to respect the
authority of that position which the person fills. I
have heard it said that Chuck Colson was once asked
why he rose in respect when President Clinton
entered the room. Colson reportedly responded that
he rose in respect, not for the individual person,
but out of respect for the office of the presidency.
And that’s the principle that applies here. And so,
those who are employees, or who are in any
subordinate position, are to pray for their
superiors, and be submissive and receptive to good
counsel, and be willing to do all that you can,
lawfully, to please, honor, and support those who
are in authority over us — as long as that does not
require us to violate the law of God. In other
passages, the Apostle Paul, by the inspiration of
the Holy Spirit, instructed Christian slaves to show
respect and honor for their unchristian masters, and
to work hard for them, as unto the Lord. And so it
is a sin for employees, or subordinates, to neglect
their work, or to grumble and complain about their
work, or to disregard the instruction of the
employer or the supervisor, or to envy those in
position over them, or try to usurp their authority.
And those who are truly
"peers" — at an equal station in life — are to treat
one another with dignity and respect, to show honor
to one another, to encourage one another, and to
rejoice with one another in each other’s successes.
And all of this applies not just to the "workplace,"
but also in every area of life: in the schools, as
teachers relate to students, and students relate to
teachers, and students relate to one another; it
applies in public life, in terms of how we as
citizens relate to those in positions of civil
authority — how we relate to the police officer and
the judge, and how the police officer and judge
relate to us. In every area of life, it applies.
Sometimes, you will be in the position of "superior"
authority; sometimes you be under "superior"
authority; and sometimes you will be relating to
others in a position of equality. It depends on who
we are relating to. But in any and all cases, the
point is that we are to show proper regard and
respect for those in authority, and if we are the
ones in authority, then we should show proper care
and concern for those under our authority, and
relate to them in a way which reflects God’s good
and benevolent authority over us.
The Fifth Commandment is the
foundation for a peaceful, ordered, happy,
harmonious society — in the family, in the church,
and in the world at large. May we be a people who
honor God and honor His authority over our lives,
and who therefore live our lives seeking to bring
glory to Him in the way that we relate to others.
May His kingdom come, His will be done, on earth, in
our lives, in our families, and in the world, as it
is in Heaven. AMEN. |